Finding Humour In The Darkness

If you're going through a really hard time, not just a death, but a

grief or a challenge in life, you know, those little

moments that make you chuckle, note them down. Those little moments of

glimmers or, like, hilarity, like, it's okay to laugh. Like, you

could have multiple feelings at once. Right? You can be extremely sad

and then, like, a grief vortex and also find moments

of joy. All the feelings can coexist, and there's

nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong with laughing at a time where it should

be really sad. Yeah. And I think a lot of people I I come

across this a lot with, like, my clients is, like, you know, people feel guilty

if they're happy or few people feel guilty if they're, like, enjoying

themselves. And, you know, you're allowed to enjoy yourself and you're allowed to

be happy, and that doesn't take away from the grief.

Welcome back to another episode of Resilient AF with Blair

and Alana. Hi.

Yeah. And Alana and I have been, like, you know, obviously, working

on a bunch of different things, you know, keeping projects rolling, other projects.

And, something that I don't think we've actually really talked too much about

that I, you know, I think would be a great conversation for today is about

dark humor and, like, how we use it to cope. We've attract other

people in the mental health space who use dark humor, you know, and,

specifically, a few TV shows that you and I both agree that are really good

that use dark humor about really heavy topics. But,

before we dive in, let's catch up. Like, how how's it going? Even though I

talk to you, like, three times a day, like, let's give an update. Yeah.

Last couple weeks, things have changed for your skin. Yes. Things

have changed for my skin. I got inked. Is that the

word? Tatted. I got tatted. Tatted?

You got a Moo two? I got a Moo two, a Molly Moo tattoo. If

you're watching the video, you can see. And, you know, I've

been dreaming this up for months and months and months, but I was on

Accutane, and you have to wait a certain amount of time after you finish it

to let your body, I don't know, do the medical things.

And so, yeah, I was inspired by a

TikTok that I saw, and, it

was fantastic. It was my second tattoo, and it was

easy and fun. And, you know, Molly Moo

is my soul cat, and I've had her

has gone through deaths upon deaths.

She's gone through moves. She's gone through a lot with me. And so,

you know, moves. And so

and now she's gone through the adjustment to Lenny. And so

I felt like a way to honor her was to have her permanently

tatted on my arm. And, you know, she didn't really

react to it, which is a very moo

thing to do. But, yeah, here it is

again. Great. My little moo too. I'm really proud

of the biggest forgetting that. Yeah. And what

else has been going on? You know, I'm just keep on keeping

on. I've been going to Pilates. I,

oh, I hit my 250 class. So last time I got

bejeweled socks, bedazzled socks. This time I got a tank

top, which is fun, and I've already worn it. It just says

the Pilates studio in the area. And,

yeah, I felt very proud of myself. And the next milestone's

500, so that's gonna be, like, another year. But I make many milestones for

myself, so 300, here we come. Well, you love

gamification. Right? I love gamification. Like, with the

Peloton, like, you used to have a bike. You still have a tread, but, like,

you love the gamification of it. And it's like you were, like, driven by that.

You've always been driven by gamification. For everything.

For, like, Fitbits, Apple Watches. Like, I

like, I'm not athletic by any means, but

competitive, I am. With yourself? With myself Yeah.

And secretly with others, but no one knows that. It's just me. Me

against me. And So is it driving you crazy that I don't use my Apple

Watch anymore? Yeah. Of course it is. Like, I

have some friends who I follow, and I always know, like, I'm not always

gonna be the top in steps, but it it's nice to

strive for. But, yeah, gamification is a

way that works for me. So, yeah, So Pilates has been gamified. I

also just really enjoy it. Yeah. Well, I'm

gonna do an intro class because, like, you like, it's helped your

pain. I've just, like, been waking up in pain. Like, I'm having a lot of

pain. Just Yeah. Muscles and so I need to do some strength

training. And so, there's a class I'm gonna check out

nearby. That's amazing. Yeah. Pilates is great.

Recommend it for everyone. It is meant for everybody

that bodies, and make sure you have

a good instructor who knows what they're doing. Yeah. I love it. Well, great update.

250. Congratulations. Round of hoo. At the time of recording, I think

I'm at two fifty six or two fifty seven now.

But, yeah, how about you? What's going on in your life?

Well, I so we all know, if you've been listening

for a while, how much I love going to the lake. So we have our

home in Kamloops, and then we have a, like, a 30 foot trailer parked at

a lake that's a couple hours away, and it's my happy place.

It's in the forest. There's waterfalls and rivers and, like, the white a white

sand beach, perfect water, you know, beautiful, clear,

good temperature. And, what,

I usually go there to heal, but because I've been on, like, this crazy

speaking tour of, like first, I went to Winnipeg for Passover, and then

I flew back to, you know, back to Kamloops and drove to Vancouver and flew

all across the world to Bali, and then came back. And then I spoke

in Seattle and then came back and then I, excuse me,

flew to Toronto. My body from all the different time zone switching,

my nervous system was dysregulated. And I was able to tell, like, that I

was dysregulated by, like, just, like, I had anxiety for no

reason, and I felt really tired and drained, and my creativity was kinda

stumped. And, like, I just felt exhausted. So I know my the signs of me

when I'm getting when I'm dysregulated. So

last weekend, I decided to stay home. And, like, I know

going to the lake would be great, and usually driving to the lake and, you

know, it's it's fine. But I knew that because on

Sunday, I was driving to Vancouver for something very

special that driving two and a half hours to the lake for two days and

then driving back and then going to drive two and a half hours to Vancouver

and then driving back Mhmm. Was gonna be too much for me. So I actually

prioritized staying put and, like, fully just

resting and having four days off work, off

of things, and it was so good. And I just like, I napped and I

slept and, like, I I feel like I'm myself again. Amazing. And

then last Sunday, Shane and I drove to Vancouver

Mhmm. On queue to pick up this little girl.

Ah. Right on queue. So you can't see if you can't see and you're listening

to this, she just my little cat just hopped on my lap. So we picked

up a kitten. Her name is Teddy. She's almost

three months old, and she's a British long hair. She's

gold with, like, the bluest eyes.

So we've had her for, at the time of recording, about a week. And she's

just absolutely awesome. Like, she plays hard. She naps hard. She's super cuddly.

She has slept with me every night. We went to the vet. She was super

behaved, super healthy, checked out you know, check got her checked out.

We're gonna actually this is really fun because I've never done this before, but we're

gonna train her to be an adventure cat. So today, I'm gonna get a harness

and begin harness training her and leash training her. So when we go to the

lake, we we're gonna start bringing her with us. So in the trailer, she'll roam

around. But when we're outside, she'll be on a leash because we have a whole

outdoor patio set up. And if we're sitting by the fire, like, we'll have her

with us. So I don't know how that's gonna go. It's either gonna go

absolutely phenomenal or terrible. And if it goes terrible, then,

well, I'll update you in a couple weeks on that. So the

biggest change in my life right now has been the addition,

of Teddy, and it's soul food. Like, she it's

like Frey. Like, the spirit of Frey is, like, connected with her and been like,

you're going to some really awesome humans, and, like, you're

going to love it. And it's just it just feels

right. Now what's also really funny is that I've been talking to a ragdoll breeder,

and I have a deposit down. So, basically, there's also gonna be a ragdoll kitten

that, like, shows up in her life. I just don't know when. And I wanna,

like I don't want to have two two, like, two, like, new

kittens. Mhmm. Because I you know, we're

having we're having the experience of integrating Teddy

with Duffy, who's our 14 year old, like, ginger cat. Mhmm. And, like,

they're getting closer. Er. Like, they can coexist.

Teddy wants to play, Duffy does not. But, anyways, they've they've shared food out of

the same bowl. So they're they're making definitely progress, but,

I think throwing another kitten into the mix will just, like, like, screw everything up.

So Yeah. Like, at this time. So for now, I have this little

fluff ball, and, it's just brought me a lot of joy and happiness and,

like, healing. I love that. And you know what else? I love that we

both have colonial cats. What

what's a colonial cat? Well, British. I don't know. I feel like colonial is very

But are we Canadian, which is, like, also kinda colonial? Well, we are

colonial because we're, like, Eastern European, and we're not indigenous

to the land. And we did not we are products of colonization.

Yeah. But I don't know. I I just always associate, like, British with,

like, colonial. And so, like our cats are like everyone's like,

oh, I didn't know you can buy cats. I'm like, well, yeah. Because it's like

a it's a it's a breed. It's a specific breed from a breeder.

And I'm like, some people are into designer jewelry, designer shoes, fancy cars. I'm

like, I'm into my designer cats because, like, I want a specific

demeanor. And, like, Xena the warrior pussy or first cat. Oh

my god. Don't eat my plant. Get out of here. Xena the warrior.

Xena the warrior pussy. Specific demeanor as Yeah. As

daddy's eating a plant. She was like she yeah. Well, she's a

kitten. She eats eating everything.

Zena the Warrior Posty was a barn cat free from a friend.

You know, Shane's like,

Ash was in our life before me. Like, it was in Shane's life before me

and was a rescue. Duffy was a barn cat. And so Frey

was, you know, from a breed because I wanted a specific cat. I want some

I wanted something long haired, fluffy, super cuddly. I work from home. I don't

have children. Yeah. And so I wanted and, like, also you can go and,

like, attend intend on buying a, like, specific breed

and wanting it to have a certain demeanor. It might not. So I'm very,

very lucky. But also a lot of, like, how Shane and I behave impacts our

cat's behavior. And a lot Shane and I are pretty mellow. Like, we just we

we chill. We're we're not there's no yelling. It's very mellow

energy. Like, we're lots of love. We play with the cats. So

Yeah. But, anyways, I like my, designer cats. Yeah. So

yeah. And Lenny's also colonial. Lenny's a a British shorthair.

So he's the shorthair, funny cousin of

Little bit of a lazy eye. Little bit of a lazy eye,

but he's he's so cute. Yeah. I love that. Cute.

They're they're funny too. They bring so much joy. And you know what else brings

joy? What? Dark humor. Sure

does. So so, there's a lot of different

movies and shows and, like, resources, like magazines and books, like Get

Griefy, those commercials that run for that. We have a partnership with Get Griefy magazine.

They use a lot of dark humor in their social media and bringing a lot

of, like, other dimensions to grief other than just extreme profound

sadness. But there's a lot of great TV shows,

and I would say, Alana and I

watch a lot of TV. Like, we don't have children. We have the luxury of

time. Like, I think since starting my ADHD meds, I've stopped stopped

watching as much TV. I still watch a lot, but I don't watch as much.

Like, after a few hours, I'm like, I can't do this anymore. And if it's

nice out, I'd rather be outside. But Totally. But when there's a

good show, I can't help but binge

it As if we can binge it. If it's if it's all out at once.

And, like, with streaming networks, they often do

that. Some shows, like, shrinking, it's I think it's at,

like, at weekly. I'm not really sure. But then there's shows like,

the Canadian show that's I don't know when when it's gonna be available to The

US, I hope soon, but, My Dead Mom or Yeah.

Other shows like Dying for Sex that

I I binged. Like, I was like, I need to download all the episodes and

because I was traveling, and I was like, I was because on the airplane, I

was like, I'm gonna do all this work and blah blah blah. No. No. No.

I had to watch all of the episodes. Of course. So let's so,

like, Alana and I can agree on a few shows. I'm I'll read you their

descriptions. I pulled them up because I don't wanna, like, mess it up. But, like

Yeah. Let's talk about we're gonna talk about Dying for Sex. It came out past

April. We're gonna talk about My Dead Mom, which came out the end of last

year. A little bit of Four Seasons and then

shrinking. And, you know, there might be other things that come up in this conversation.

And if you hear big crashes, it's because my kitten my designer kitten is having

the zoomies and crashing around my office. So

let's start with dying for sex because it was, like, the most recent, like Mhmm.

My most recent, like, obsession. And so, basically, this girl is

diagnosed with stage four, metastatic breast cancer, and she decides to leave

her husband and explore the complexity of her sexual desires for the first time in

her life. You know, her best friend is by her side. And it is

so well done. So well done and,

like, also very accurate. Well,

the social worker maybe is a little bit boundary crossing. Yeah.

Not maybe is, but from, like, the

palliative, metastatic cancer approach,

very accurate, which I love. I love accuracy in a TV

show. Yeah. And I think what's really great so, like, it's Michelle Williams. Like, if

you grew up like, if you're a vintage millennial like me and you watch Dawson

Creek, is it from she's from Dawson's Creek. Right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Like, you know, it's it's very nostalgic. But the

way the way they integrate the seriousness and the

humor is just so brilliant because, Alana

and I have been through a lot of stuff. And there was amongst the, like,

absolute shattering heartbreak, there was a lot of

a lot of pockets of absolutely ridiculous stuff

that happened that is nothing but humorous. Yeah.

Yeah. Especially with our dad's

End of life. Allegation, end of life. Like, our mom's a little

less so. Our mom's a lot of it came afterwards. But our dad's, like,

during it, we would be like, oh my god. What is happening?

Right. Yeah. And so in Dying for Sex, like, I

don't think any of this is gonna, there might be spoilers for all the things

we talk about. But, like, the show is called Dying for Sex. So,

basically, I I mean, like, I don't know how they're gonna do a second season,

but, like, towards the end, the different stages, like, the last burst of energy

and you know? I thought it was really, like, somewhat

accurate, like, very accurate. And it had me thinking about when dad was dying. Like,

do you remember, like, I think dad's burst of energy was when we were watching

the Super Bowl and the Doctor Dre and Snoop Dogg performance. Yeah.

And he was he was also probably in a bit of a delirium during that

as well Yeah. As he was, like, his past few week his last few weeks

of life. But, yeah, he, like we had, like, the health care aide

come in, and he was, like, bouncing up and

down. He was having a great time. So but, anyways, I think, like,

it's also, because because you said it's so accurate, I think this is a really

great way to, like, if you're maybe having someone in your life who's, you

know, diagnosed with cancer or terminal,

this might be a really good show for you to watch that, like, takes you

on a bit of a journey, you know, for with someone who's dying, and you

can see that it's not all just absolute gloom.

Yeah. And, also, you know, like, a

lot of people hold their sense of humor even as they are

dying, and I think that shows I mean, I don't know. I'm sure

some of it was dramatized for the Oh, of course.

For the show. But this is a spoiler, so

skip over the next, like, minute right now. My

favorite part is it's like a it's a small interaction

between, the the character and the best

friend. Mhmm. And the one who is dying is saying, make

sure, like, when I die, I don't die with my mouth open. Yeah.

And sure enough, like, she ends up dying with her mouth open. And so,

like, Jenny Slate's character is, like, trying to, like, push her mouth

up Yeah. Because she was like, no. She can't die that way. And she was

like and then it falls open again, and then she has to do it again.

And it was just like those little moments. Yeah. Yeah. So

I would say 10 out of 10. Like, go watch it. 10 out of 10.

10 out of 10. Go watch it. Telling all my colleagues who I work with

in palliative care to watch it too. Oh my god. Why is

my cat being so crazy right now? Is it because we're potting?

Yeah. Teddy Teddy wants to talk about Teddy, do you

wanna talk about death? No. You're like, I just started life. Yeah.

What if we yeah. So, yeah, dying for sex,

% recommend. Do you want let's talk about my dead mom because Love that

one. I actually so I wrote an article about Wendy in the show for Get

Greasy, which comes out in June. At this time, I don't

think it's available outside of Canada, and I know they're working on it. Yeah. And

I think and Wendy was on the podcast too. Yeah. And Wendy was on our

podcast, but it is so well done. It's do

you want would you I'll I'll read the description. Yeah. Read the description.

Okay. So, Emmy is a woman who begins to reconsider her life choices

three years after passing, after the passing of her mom, exploring the

complicated nature of grief through the filter of mothers and

daughters. And, again, this is a show that

I heard about and I binged. If you're in Canada, it's available

on Crave. It might be available on Prime.

Might be No. Probably Prime if you bought the Crave channel is my guess.

Okay. So, anyways, this specific show, I really enjoyed

because, a, there's a lot of dark humor. It's about a Jewish

daughter, which Alana and I are Jewish daughters. There's a lot of, like, elements

of Judaism in there and, like, kinda like the Jewish guilt and, like, the, like,

like, the the mannerisms of a Jewish mother.

Mhmm. And I found it really relatable. Like, not

even just the Jewish part, but just, like, losing my mom and, like, the hearing

my mom's voices and stuff like that. Our our mom oh, there's Lenny. We

got a cat buddy. So the thing is our mom, I would say, wasn't your

typical Jewish mother. She doesn't fit

the stereotype fully, but our mom had a lot

of, like, neuroses for sure. Yeah. So why did you

love my dead mom? I okay. So I just

loved it because, like, basically, it's like

the ghost of mom that visits Emmy

and just the voice of the head of, like, what her mom would say to

her in these moments because I often think about certain

situations. Like, what would mom say? More so, it's about, like, when I hear news

about people, I'm like, what would mom say about this? Oh, yeah. But hers was

a little bit more of, like, about her specifically. And I

just find it so accurate that, like, beyond the

grave Yeah. Yeah. The mom is still having this

huge influence on her life. Yeah.

So that's a really funny show. And, Alana, you just, like,

went went down like, you just nailed it. So

and Wendy's amazing. Like, she's won awards for her shows. She's on her

podcast. You can listen to it. You know? And she's also

a super cool chick that, you know, is a very good storyteller.

Another show that I think really uses dark humor well is

shrinking. And, so shrinking is

a grieving therapist starts to break the rules by telling his clients

exactly what he thinks. Jimmy has lost his wife and wants to try a

new approach to his loss, but it's unclear how he's gonna how this is gonna

help others. Others. And and so this is,

the way this show is, it's it's it, like, has all the emotions.

Mhmm. And so it's Jason Seagal. Is it Seagal or

Seagal? Seagal. I don't know. Seagal. Anyways,

just like the cast of characters is all brilliant.

And, like, every episode just like, I feel like there's

always a range of emotions. Like, it's not just humor. But there's a lot of

humorous moments where, like, I do the whole, like, laugh out loud at, like, the

situation that happens. Because it's about all these relationships amongst, like,

therapists, friends of the, you know, mom who passed away, the wife who passed away,

the daughter and the dad. And I think it's just

done so beautifully. Mhmm. And it I would say, like, I don't even know if

it's, categorized as a dramedy, like a drama comedy, but

there's a lot of like, there's a lot of comedic moments,

that are shown in this. Totally. And it's just a reminder

that, like, you know, like, even when these, like, profound losses happen,

like, a lot of times, there's, like, these funny little moments

in the minutiae. And I what I personally love it's not even the dark

humor part of the show that I love. I'm a huge Jessica Williams fan.

I used to listen to the two Dope Queens podcast that she had

with, Phoebe Robinson. And so I

just love her sense of humor, and you could see

her bringing herself into the role. And I know she herself has actually gone

through quite a grief. Yeah. I believe her her partner

had died. I don't wanna I don't wanna, like, say what it was because I'm

not a % sure it may have been an overdose.

But I know I mean, I don't know Jessica Williams. Yeah. But

I imagine she's tapped into her own experience. Yeah.

I didn't know that she was part of two dope queens. Yeah.

She's so funny in the show. Like, her character is amazing in the

show. Mhmm. And then the last show I just wanna touch on. And I know

we're kinda going through the laundry list, but we don't wanna go too deep because,

well, we want you to let go watch the shows. Yeah. We don't wanna spoil

them. So the next one, we're not gonna talk too too much about, like, because

I it's new, and there might be

spoilers in this part, but, four seasons. So,

like, first of all, I'm gonna just read the description. And so

it's the decade long friendship between three married couples as tested with

one divorce is complicating the traditions of their, like, quarterly

weekend getaways. And it's Steve Carell.

It's Tina Fey, Coleman Domingo, Erica I

don't even know how to say her last name, Henningsen, and a few other really

brilliant characters, like this guy Marco Calavani. I've never even heard of

him. Like, he plays Claude. I love Claude. So,

basically, like, it's the way the show is laid out,

you know, each episode is, like, one of the seasons,

and, like, it's one of their trips. And it follows the journey, and, like, season

one ends with a tragedy. Yeah. But even the

tragedy, the way they lay it out has this layer of humor to it.

Like, the the tragedy, Annette being announced itself wasn't,

but what's happening around it is. And so this

show, it's a dark comedy. But Yeah.

Well and it also, like, it other parts of grief aside from,

like, tragic tragedies. Mhmm.

You know, there's some disenfranchised grief that happens quite early

on in the show, and and the way they tackle that is

very well done as well. And it's it's great. Yeah. I don't wanna say too

much about it because you know? But, like, I also binged

it. I binged watched it. Yeah. I I I've been trying to,

like, separate eight episode shows until, like, two of four

just for my own, like because I don't want things to end.

Yeah. I do recognize I spoiled

Dying for Sex, and I apologize for that. But, also, if you

haven't watched it yet, then what are you doing? Also, like, the title.

Yeah. Like, it's pretty obvious what happened. So But yeah. So the

I think, like, those four shows, you know, Alana and I are working

on this project where we're, like, really, like, diving back into our

our journey with grief and losing our parents and the work that we're doing and,

like, the sadness and the, like,

the sadness, but also the layers of the dark humor.

Yeah. And, you know, like, I think it's important to acknowledge the dark

humor in the in the grief process because it

creates conversation. I'll share a little anecdote that happened.

So on Mother's Day this year, I was at a

Pilates class, of course. And, at the end

of the class, the the the teacher is like, thank you for so much for

spending your Sunday with me. I thought you'd all be with your mothers. And so

immediately, I go, well, my mom's dead. And everyone just kinda,

like, looked like, oh. I'm like, no. No. No. Like, it's fine. I'm like, it's

not fine, but, like, it's fine. And then but

that brought up conversation. Like, someone beside me was saying, yeah. This is how it'll

be for Father's Day for me. And then I was like, yeah. Me too.

Not to try and steal her thunder, but, but then somewhat then the

teacher started talking. And so it just became a conversation about,

like, death and the loss of of parents. And, you

know, people are still so awkward when it comes to talking

about death and grief that, like, sometimes these, like, dark humor

moments can break the ice. Right. And

it's it's so great that you you and I both have this honesty. Like, heck,

we have a whole book series called resilient AF. We have a whole clothing line

with the branding. We have clothing that is legit dark humor.

And the people who get it get it, and the people who don't don't in

the sense of we have shirts that say dead parents society, and the tagline is

the club that no one wants to join. Anyone who's lost a parent's like, I

need that shirt. Anyone who hasn't is so offended by it. And it's like Yeah.

Actually, that's gonna happen to you, and it's gonna be really, really

terrible. Yeah. And if it doesn't happen to you, that means you're the one

who's died. Which is also really, really terrible. Which is which is also

really terrible. But, yeah, like, I think, like, I you know, you and I have

talked about this. Like, you know, you've had a lot a lot more friends in

your circle who have Yeah. Lost parents. But, like,

it's unless you've gone through it, it's really like, you just can't grasp

it. Like No. You can't grasp it. And even losing a mom is different than

losing a dad. Like, our moms, like, we're attached to them. Our umbilical cords are,

like, attached to them. And, like Yeah. I know they're literally, like, we literally come

from them, and I feel like our parent our mom's dying was, like, this other

umbilical cord being cut. Right? Yeah. And,

but so we use this dark humor. And, like, obviously, like, sometimes I'm just

too sad to use humor and that's okay. Like, when Frey right when Frey suddenly

died, like, there was no there was no humor, but it's always kind of in

hindsight that I can reflect. You know? Like, even in Yeah. Like,

Frey's last hours, like, the only time he wasn't screaming in pain was when he

was eating chew. So Shane's like, I'm just gonna give you chew after chew.

And so before we put him down, we just gave him treat after treat, and

we're like, he just basically ate till the very end. Like, he was looking little

funny. But, like, yeah. Like, some it's not like there's gonna be humor in every

moment and not every moment is humorous, but I'm sure there are things you can

think about in hindsight. Totally. I have another quick anecdote, and

it's about TV. So Survivor,

recently switched not recently, after COVID switched their

seasons to be twenty six days. And so I have a group chat of friends

who, watch Survive every week.

And they they used to do this thing called a loved one's visit where they

would have people come out, and now they they do, like, a letter. And then

they get it on, like, day 21 or twenty two of twenty six, which is,

like, not actually that long. And so my friend

who's lost her dad was like, ugh. Like, I hate this. Like, they don't, like,

need it. Like, it's only been, like, twenty one days. And I was like, yeah.

Like, you know, I don't like it either. Like, it's it

doesn't feel like they've earned it. And then I go

to my friend. I'm like, I think the reason we don't like it is because

we've gone longer because our parents are dead.

Yeah. Oh, and so, like, the other two people in the chat

both have their their parents alive, thankfully, but they were able to,

like, laugh at the fact that, like, we

could laugh at that. Even though it's, like, not funny, but,

like, it's like, of course, we're bitter about it because, like,

we've gone years. And, like, this friend of mine, like, her

her dad actually died, like, two days before mom died, and so, like, we've been

in this roller coaster for years together. Yeah.

So I think on that note, you know,

we invite you to go check out these shows. If you're going through a really

hard time, not just a death, but a grief or a challenge

in life, you know, those little moments that make you chuckle,

note them down. Those little moments of glimmers or, like, hilarity,

like, it's okay to laugh. Like, you could have multiple feelings at once.

Right? You can be extremely sad and then, like, a grief vortex

and also find moments of joy. All the feelings can

coexist, and there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong with

laughing at a time where it should be really sad. Yeah. And I think a

lot of people I I come across this a lot with, like, my clients is,

like, you know, people feel guilty if they're happy or few people feel guilty if

they're, like, enjoying themselves. And, you know, you're allowed to enjoy

yourself and you're allowed to be happy, and that doesn't take away from the

grief Yeah. And sadness you're experiencing. Exactly.

So, any final words, sister?

You know, I do not have any final words.

Amazing. Amazing. So, yeah, we wanna invite you to

find those those moments in the dark times that bring you a little

smile or a little giggle and, you know, maybe reflect on, you know, hard times

that you've gone through and see if they have those any moments. And if you

can't find one, that's also okay because there's not always humor in everything.

Yeah. But you, you know, I we also invite you to

check out those shows. If you're watching this are you

listening to this on YouTube or even actually on Spotify, we can leave

comments. Let us know what other shows or movies that have dark humor

Mhmm. About grief and loss, resonated with you

because we'd love that. Maybe we even do a part two where we talk about

movies and and books and all those things. Yeah. And thank you to

everyone who tuned in to another episode of Resilient AF. This was such a

hoot. Good hoot. Hoot hoot. Hoot hoot. You know,

remember, life's full of ups and downs, good and bad, happy,

sad, laughs and cries. That's just part of being human.

It's the human experience, and you don't have to go through it alone.

It's completely okay to not be okay. We are here to hold your

hand and be that lighthouse in the storm, and just remember, you are

resilient AF. Thanks.