Life isn’t experienced in only highs or lows, it’s experienced through the duality of both. The same goes for success.
In this week’s episode Blair and Theresa talk about the duality of experiencing it ALL. Often we fall into a victimhood mentality when things go “wrong,” however we have the tools to shift the perspective. Listen as they share powerful mindset tools to help you navigate experiencing tough situations while being able to choose to feel the way you desire to feel ultimately in the moment.
Everything truly happens FOR us. If we are open to learning from ALL situations we can extract the lessons to help us move forward with more wisdom and grace.
Get ready for another year of juicy conversations around success, as we take the topic deeper and layer in conversations around energetics and our spiritual journeys.
About the Hosts:
Blair Kaplan Venables is an expert in social media marketing and the president of Blair Kaplan Communications, a British Columbia-based PR agency. As a pioneer in the industry, she brings more than a decade of experience to her clients, which includes global wellness, entertainment, and lifestyle brands. Blair has helped her customers grow their followers into the tens of thousands in just one month, win integrative marketing awards, and more. She has spoken on national stages and her expertise has been featured in media outlets including CBC Radio, CEOWORLD Magazine, She Owns It, and Thrive Global. Blair is also the #1 best-selling author of Pulsing Through My Veins: Raw and Real Stories from an Entrepreneur. When she’s not working on the board for her local chamber of commerce, you can find Blair growing the “I Am Resilient Project,” an online community where users share their stories of overcoming life’s most difficult moments.
Theresa Lambert is an Online Business Strategy Coach with an impressive hotelier background in luxury Hospitality in the #1 Ski Resort in North America. Her mission is “ To make business easy so that your life can be more FULL!”. Theresa supports ambitious Women Entrepreneurs and Coaches to redefine success with elegance and create the Impact, Income and Freedom they desire in Business and in Life. In 2020 Theresa became the Bestselling Author of her book Achieve with Grace: A guide to elegance and effectiveness in intense workplaces. She is also a Speaker and the Podcast co-host of Dissecting Success. Theresa has been recognized as a business leader in Whistler’s Profiles of Excellence, and is being featured in publications such as Hotelier Magazine, Thrive Global and Authority Magazine.
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Theresa. Yes. Yes. Happy New Year.Theresa Lambert:
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Yeah, 100%. And I feel like on so many levels, we get really messed up with that. Right? Because we feel like if we are experiencing something very bad, that so often we believe that nothing good can happen, right? Like, you might know this expression, like every bad things comes in freeze. And I remember like, at one point, people started saying that when I was still in a hotel, like the team was saying that like, oh, like bad things always come and freeze. And I noticed how many other people all of a sudden, were making the statement. And then what I started doing was every time something good happened, I was like, Oh, good. Things always come and freeze. I literally flipped it because I think what we often fail to understand is that it's very normal that we have that full range of experiences. And sometimes they're more extreme. And I don't know if you can hear my cat attacking the sandbag behind me, no, okay, only I can. But we seem to have this idea that debt can either be one or the other, and not both. And I found for myself, that starting to MIDI, except like find deep acceptance within the fact that both gets to exist. And both is equally valid. For us to have this full experience and range of life is something that really helped me to not get focused in on, on the things that are, you know, the things that might be really difficult to handle. But instead just let them be for what they are another experience and experience I get to learn from something even in the most difficult situations. And in the same day, I can be experienced both.Blair Kaplan-Venables:
Yes, yes, you can? Well, I don't know why. I looked up what I was trying to say, while you were talking. Newton's third law, which says, For every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction. And that's the duality. And, you know, I really also believe mindset has a huge part in this huge part in this, you know, what are we doing to see the glass half full? What are we doing? To make sure we have, well, though, we are wearing rose colored glasses, but then we are, you know, like, what are we doing so that when things are hard, we are not stuck or Velcro down to that bottom of sadness and hardened hardship, right? What are we doing? And I think it's important that each day we have practices to strengthen those muscles to make, you know, make us able to live in a world of duality. Where it's not so uncomfortable. You know, some practices I have like I call it strengthening my resilience muscle, I guess it kind of comes back to that. But I practice gratitude every day. I have the gratitude alarm every day at 9pm it goes off and I list three things I'm grateful for. I've you know, every so often I get in a groove of also sharing it on Instagram. My husband and I share it if I'm at a party, we'll parties aren't a thing anymore. But why don't we all get together in person, we would share them. But science proves that if you do that for at least 21 days, it changes the neural pathways in your brain to see the world in a more positive way. Like even when my mum died. We still did gratitude even when I had the miscarriage we still did gratitude. And so I you know, that's a perfect example of living in a place of duality. Like I'm, I'm burying my mother. But here are three things I'm grateful for from today. And it's a really interesting practice because it takes the duality, you know, from like the higher level to in that moment of like, Yes, right now I am not feeling it was things are really hard. But if you stop and think about what you are grateful for, you can create that duality and pull yourself out.Theresa Lambert:ast in the last year, like in:Blair Kaplan-Venables:a, Canada, small town town of:Theresa Lambert:
I don't and it makes me she is a super side story. But I was on a podcast Loski and was referring to like doing something that you're like, as a joy injection. Julian but then I was told that apparently that is like, sexual term. And I was like, ever like, anyways, it was so funny. But like, I love it a joy injection, right? Like from moment to moment, you can experience different things. And I think that's what you were just mentioning. And when we get clear on you know, what is that in a moment even? You know, I? Yeah, like for all means write down a list of things that makes you happy, like, what do you do when you lose time? Right? Like, what is it? Is it painting? Do you just like get a moment of bliss out of sitting in the morning with your cup of coffee and feeling the warmth of your hand I feel like it's VD, the intentionality behind what you choose. That matters most. Right? You didn't order that Blizzard, because it's good for you and you feel great after having it. You're at the blizzard because the idea of getting a cookie dough pleasant delivered, and being able to eat it just felt like a moment of bliss, a moment of joy. And that is the thing. So we can't in one moment, it's hard to feel duality at the same time. And that's why people always say you can't feel sadness and happiness at the same time. But you can from moment to moment, and that moment could be 30 seconds, you're happy and 30 seconds, you're sad. And you know, as and we have been starting to talking a little bit about our human design and bringing that conversation into to what we are and this is your energetics. And I feel like there was there was a lot of wisdom that comes with that. And I'm what they call an emotional authority. So I go for all these like, emotional wave. So honoring my emotions has been a big, big lesson for me. But I literally can be like, think of this as like Jekyll and Hyde. Like I can be in like full on one moment, and then the next moment, I could literally get hit by something that makes me really sad and start crying like it's it's kind of ridiculous. But what I've learned is that that is okay. Right? So when you choose what makes what brings you joy, when you start to get clear on what that is, what ends up happening is it's not about suppressing your emotions or feeling sad about something like a loss. But it is literally choosing for one moment to connect you with something that you hold dear. That brings you a different emotion that lives at a different frequency.Blair Kaplan-Venables:
Yes, oh my gosh. Maybe this year, we should dive into human design a bit more because I'm really curious about it. So I'm at the beginning of my spiritual awakening, I'm having this journey it was It started off slow and it's really ramping up. And what I've really realized is that my heart chakra is close, like My heart shattered when I was a kid and putting those pieces together and then cracking it open. And I'm doing a you know, doing a lot of work, a lot of intuitive work, a lot of work with meditation. I had a really special experience maybe I'll share with you in a second this week. But you know, I'm realizing that I have a lot of work to do in my human design. I think I what is it I'm just I don't know as much as Teresa but like I have a sacral so,Theresa Lambert:
so bless you and I are both manifesting generators. Yes, a three, five profile but you are a sacral authority, and I'm an emotional authority which basically means that you don't ride emotional waves like I do, let's just put it up like I am like, on I am always like and again like I don't teach Human Design. I'm just like I'm like curious about it. I bring it into my coaching for reaches more understanding where the other person is coming through because it actually helps me figure out what strategies might be working for them or what tools they have to have in place to feel more comfortable and confident to show up in their business. So I really use it as a as a tool, if you will, to help me understand other people better because it's helped me understand myself better. But basically, for you, it just means you get in you get intuitive hits. Yeah, and you know, and when you do, you're supposed to move, whereas I get intuitive hits. But then I got to ride out the emotional wave that can come with that. And I actually mine I have like three energy centers, it's called, they're all they all defined for me. And so I literally I can, I can get ahead and go through an emotional wave. And then I have to wait until I feel the intuitive hit again before making a decision. And or sometimes I have an emotional wave, and then I get the hidden and I connect with my spleen to really sink into Is it a yes? Or is it a no?Blair Kaplan-Venables:of work to do. And so I think:Theresa Lambert:here with you. And I can feel:Blair Kaplan-Venables:
opening her hearts and her puttingTheresa Lambert:
my heart But to do that, and still honor the fact that there'll be times when it doesn't feel like and it doesn't mean we have to close it back up. It doesn't you know what I mean? Like you can go and do a lot of healing and still experience stuff and you can continue to be on that healing path. And that is VD, that duality piece because you willBlair Kaplan-Venables:
I feel like we should write a song about duality. It's great. You know what, what an awesome chat this is. This is awesome. We did it. We did a whole year of dissecting, we're gonna go a little deeper this year, we're gonna dissect deeper for you to dissect love even. I'm excited about this journey because, you know, success. You know, I still don't have an answer for what success is because it changes all the time. And we'll never have that answer. But going deep cracking open those chakras opening up those you know realms of possibilities are going to allow us to explore the different meanings of success and love and abundance and everything that we desire. Thank you for tuning in to another episode of dissecting success. I'm Blair Kaplan Venables and I am worthy of receiving love. I'm with my fabulous co host Teresa Lambert, who's also worthy of receiving love and she receives love way better than me because she is a what is it? I'm gonna say girl in yourTheresa Lambert:
yeah, see this is not how it works but there's no better receiving or less receiving at all, no, no, butBlair Kaplan-Venables:
what was your human design way you make decisions butTheresa Lambert:
anyway, no decisions at all. Were born lovey, are born worthy. And we all ultimately love in human form. SoBlair Kaplan-Venables:
we are Love. I Am Love. You are Love. We are really worthy of receiving we are worthy of giving. Thank you for tuning in. PeaceTheresa Lambert:
that's a wrap for another episode of dissecting success. enjoyed this episode. Make sure to subscribe to black Hebron, Venables and Theresa Lambert's podcast dissecting success on the App Store.